In the world we live in, people will do anything to keep up appearances. Nobody wants to be perceived as a novice on a subject of discussion so they would rather lie about the facts than keep quiet and learn.
Once upon a time, it was okay to be embarrassed. It was okay to have a small bum and not have an hourglass-shape as a girl. You didn’t have to be a supermodel to pass for a beautiful female. There was a time when people didn’t really care about having a light complexion or lips that pout. Their eyebrows were never on flick but they lived happy lives. The men didn’t mind if they had perfect abs or not.
People lived by just being people. They lived together not minding who was beautiful or ugly: who was extra skinny or chubby. They didn’t care who hard perfect skin or perfect hair. I wonder how living got so complicated!
Getting to hear people ask you questions about your insecurities is pretty hard. To have your friends take a look at you and go, ‘Gosh! Is this who you really are?’ can be very devastating especially if you used so much time trying to hide the real you.
Here are a few tips on how to manage your insecurities.
You have to find comfort in anything you can find comfort in.
For some people, their solace is found in their jobs. For others, just having a wonderful family that cares for them is all the comfort they can ever need. Yours could be in your children or a hobby. You just have to look hard enough and if you look in the right places, you will find so much that will distract you from your flaws.
Remember most people will point out your inadequacies to hide theirs
One of my insecurities has always been my hair. I didn’t choose to have scanty front hair but I inherited it from my grandmom. It’s like a family trademark because it runs throughout the extended family. All my female cousins and aunts have the same problem but anytime we meet as a family and they have a hairdo that covers their front hairs, they point out my receding hairline for the whole time. They would call me ‘badly’ and even go to the extent of hitting my forehead.
They called it a joke but it was never funny to me.
For a long time, I dreaded family gatherings especially when I wasn’t old enough to put attachments on my hair. But then I realized that I was allowing everyone else have a good time except me.
I decided that it was time for a change. So whenever someone said something bad about my hair, I reminded myself that they were only trying hard to hide theirs.
You find freedom when you face your insecurities
The moment you come face to face with what you are afraid of admitting, that’s the very moment you begin to live a life of freedom. Don’t let anyone rob you of your freedom. Quit hiding. It’s time to show the real you.
Don’t expect everyone to love you for who you are
There are people around you who can’t handle the real you. They prefer the idea of you: which they have created in their heads than the true version of you. To such people, revealing your true self will only chase them away.
When this happens, you don’t blame them or feel less of a person. The truth is not everyone is meant to stay in your life. Some are meant to go no matter how hard you try to keep them.
Of course, not everybody will accept you for who you are: some people may say hurtful things to you but others will show you how perfect you are despite your flaws.